Yup you heard me right. I’ve gone crazy! Book crazy that is. Yesterday, I have bought RM138.40 worth of books! :p I only got to write about it today coz yesterday the internet was down and so I can’t make post… Anyways there are 10 books altogether, and if you think about it, it’s a bargain coz on average, 1 book only costs like RM13++ , PLUS it’s tax deductible!! Huhu.

I bought it @a bargain bookstore named BookXcess where they sell previous years books at a very cheap price. Nope, it is not a “Rent-A-Book” or secondhand book shop. The books there are definitely first hand / new. Other than renowned names like Sidney Sheldon, John Grisham, JRR Tolkien; they also have non-fiction, biography, self-help, love, kids, etc (the usual categories you would see @ a bookstore). The same books will still be sold at the same price @popular book chains such as MPH, Popular, etc. etc., even if they’re already outdated. Believe me, I’ve checked.

Anyway, check out the titles that I have bought:

(1) The Doomsday Conspiracy
Author: Sidney Sheldon
Published: 1993
Price bought @BookXcess: RM17.90
Summary: Commander Robert Bellamy, a Naval Intelligence agent, is awakened by a telephone call at 4:00 A.M., in which he is asked to report to the director of the NSA (National Security Agency). Once there, he is assigned the top secret job of locating ten people who were on a tour of Switzerland, who witnessed the crash of a UFO. After he uncovers a witness, they are brutally murdered by their country's government. Bellamy uncovers an international conspiracy. He is forced to play a dangerous game of hide and seek with the world's strongest governments, who are out to silence him because of the knowledge he possesses.

(2) The Sky Is Falling
Author: Sidney Sheldon (yeah I like Sidney Sheldon. Now you know. Hehe)
Published: 2001
Price bought @BookXcess: RM17.90
Summary: Revolves around Dana Evans, a TV achorwoman who finds herself involved in a series of killings of people from the same family.

(3) Are You Afraid Of The Dark
Author: Sidney Sheldon
Published: 2005
Price bought @BookXcess: RM17.90
Plot summary: Tanner Kingsley takes white-collar crime to new heights by using his billion-dollar think tank corporation to create a machine for himself, which can control the weather. Prima is actually the brainchild of Tanner's older brother, Andrew Kingsley, who heads up the Kingsley Group think tank. Andrew initially creates Prima in the hopes of addressing the environmental problem of global warming.

Andrew's brother, Tanner, is not as concerned with solving the world's problems as his older brother. Instead, Tanner dreams of turning the philanthropic Kingsley Group into a supercharged think tank devoted to earning profit and power. He is a megalomaniac of the highest order, who intends to hold the world hostage once.....

(4) Playing for Pizza (Hard Cover)
Author: John Grisham
Published: 2007 (Wow… This is quite recent)
Price bought @BookXcess: RM24.90
Synopsis: Cut from the Cleveland Browns after the worst performance in the history of the NFL, third-stringer Rick Dockery, desperate to play football, is hired by the Panthers of Parma, Italy, to be their starting quarterback and finds himself confronted by the confusing diversity of Italian culture, language, and romance.

(5) Drop Dead Beautiful (Hard Cover)
Author: Jackie Collins
Published: 2007
Price bought @BookXcess: RM24.90
Summary: It's all about Collins most popular heroine—the wildly beautiful Lucky Santangelo—still every bit as strong, sexy, and seductive as ever. But Lucky is older and wiser, and hot to reclaim her power position in Las Vegas. However, a deadly enemy from her past has resurfaced—a person determined to take everything from her, including the family she holds so dear: two sons and an out-of-control teenage daughter who is just as outrageous as Lucky herself. Like mother, like daughter. And if that old saying holds true, it's going to be one wild ride.

(6) Fearless (5-In-1)
Author: Francine Pascal (I used to love Francine Pascal when I’m a teenager)
Published: 2002
Price bought @BookXcess: RM34.90
“I am powerful
I am graceful
I am angry
I am pure
I am raw
I am alone

I am Gaia
I am just like you
But I’m not – I am FEARLESS
…a girl born without the fear gene”

The thing is, I have noooooo idea when I will be able to finish all 6 what with me juggling work, dancing class, gym class, movies, DVDs, housekeeping, going back to parents, wedding arrangement and normal TV!

Anyway, if you’re looking for bargain books like these, head on to:

BookXcess
L3-57, Amcorp Mall
18, Jln Persiaran Barat
46050 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03-79560455

And nope, I’m not getting paid for promoting them :p

Or if you’d rather get bargain online, head on to:

You can see straight through a bad pickup line. (Stars in your eyes? Puh-leez.) But when it comes to beauty, there are still some falsehoods floating around that you might not be on to yet. Get ready to wise up.

Think brushing your hair 100 strokes each night is healthy? Will frequent trims really make your hair grow faster? Read on to discover the simple truths behind great hair.

1. Don't ever lie to us; we always FIND OUT!

2. We DON'T ENJOY talking dirty to you as much as you enjoy listening.

3. Don't say you understand when you don't.

4. Girls are pretty, but yours is ALWAYS the Prettiest!

5. You don't have PMS; don't f***kin act like you know what it's like.

6. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.

7. If you talk about having a big D***; we know you don't.

8. Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls that want real relationships9. We don't like it when you act like Mr. Big.

10. A system in your car only impresses your homeboys not us.

11. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe.

12. It's good to be sensitive, sometimes.

13. If you did something wrong or even if you didn't, apologize

14. Be spontaneous; dinner and a movie won't always cut it.

15. We are self-conscious by nature; we can't help it. 16. We are DRAMA queens.

17. Fashion police do exist.

18. Don't ask us to give u head; if you are nice you just might get it.

19. We absolutely DO NOT care about monster trucks, car systems, paintball, or anything else you and your friends talk about... in other words shut the f*** up !

20. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times. ;)

21. We don't shave our legs everyday so get over it.

22. Don't make bets about us; we will always find out.

23. Shave; no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or mustache looks, we always hate it.

24. Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emit other strange gases from your body, it isn’t, so DON’T..!!

25. Don't compare our breasts with Pamela Anderson's; hers are fake, just remember that. (u have a better shot at ours than you ever will with hers, you may as well give it up now)

26. It is not cool to shoot snot rockets.

27. We are BEAUTIFUL at all times.

28. We will always think we are fat, so humor us and tell us we aren't.

29. You can shoot hoops, score a goal, knock down big fat guys, and hit a little baseball with a stick, so why the hell can't you piss in the toilet and not on it.

30. Most importantly: WE ARE ALWAYS RIGHT; so don't forget it! ;p

This is dedicated to all my friends (past, current & future) who ever doubted themselves...

I am special. In all the world, there is nobody like me.

Since the beginning of time there has never been
another person like me. Nobody has my smile.
Nobody has my eyes, my nose, my hair, my voice.
I'm special.

Nobody anywhere has my tastes, for food or music
or art. No one sees things just as I do.

In all of time there has been no one who laughs
like me, no one who cries like me. And what makes
me laugh and cry will never provoke identical
laughter and tears for anybody else, ever.

No one reacts to any situation just as I would react.
I'm Special..!

I'm the only one in all of creation who has my
set of abilities. Oh! There will always be
somebody who is better at some of the things I'm
good at, but no one in the universe can reach the
quality of my combination of talents, ideas,
abilities and feelings. Like a room full of
musical instruments, some may excel alone, but
none can match the symphony, when all are played
together. I'm a symphony.

Through all entity no one will ever look, walk,
think or do like me. I'm Special, I'm rare.

And as in all reality, there is great value.
Because of my rare value, I need not attempt to
imitate others. I will accept, yes!
Celebrate my differences.

I'm special and I'm beginning to realize it's no
accident that I'm special. I'm beginning to see
that God made me special for a very special
purpose. He must have a job for me that no one
else can do as well as I. Out of all billion
applicants only one qualified, only one has the
right combination of what it takes.

That one is ME ... Because I'M SPECIAL !!!!!!!!!

If you like this post, you might like this one too I've Learned...

This is originally posted by my good friend Uncle Tim Ho in 2007. When petrol price and our essentials i.e. rice, bread, butter, etc. etc. haven't gone up yet. :p Now, slightly adjusted by myself...

Very interesting... read on. Somebody should get this to 'people on top'…
Let's do some simple calculations here.

In Malaysia, the average family income is RM3,000 /month (where father works, mother doesn't).

I understand there are many families whose monthly income does not reach RM3,000, but, to make things simple, let's take RM3,000 as the figure. Ok lah, right?

Okay, let's start rolling with a family which has Papa, Mama, 1 daughter and 1 son.

Calculation starts...

Electricity and water bill: RM100
(No air-con, No home theatre, No water heater)

Phone bill (Telekom): RM100

Meals for a happy family: RM775
(3 meals on RM25/day, RM25 for 4 persons…?)

Papa makan during working hrs: RM155
(RM5/day, RM5 … can eat what?)

Car repayment: RM400
(A proton saga aeroback, 7 yrs repayment)

Petrol (living in city, traffic-jam): RM300
(go to work, bring son to school, only can afford one car running. By the way, is RM300 still enough nowadays??)

Insurance: RM650
(kids, wife and father)

House repayment: RM750
(low cost housing repayment for 30 yrs, retired still have to work to pay!)

Tuition: RM80
(got that cheap meh? i don't think so)

Older children pocket money @ school: RM20
(RM1/day, eat bread?)

School fees: RM30
(enough ah?)

School books and etc: RM100
(always got extra to pay in school)

Younger children milk powder: RM50
(cannot have the DHA, BHA, PHA one, expensive)

Miscellaneous: RM100
(shampoo, rice, sauce, toilet paper)

Oh wait!!! I have to stop here, so... No Astro, no movie @ cinema, no DVD, no CD, no online, cannot KFC, cannot McDonald, cannot go Park walk during weekend (petrol expensive), no chit chat on phone with grandparents, and etc...

Let's use a calculator to total up... WALAO EH! RM3,610 already…

Already reached RM3,610... even without deduction of EPF, Socso & Income Tax...

If like this, how to survive...?

Our Prime Minister asked us to change lifestyle? How to change? Don't eat? Don't work? Don't send children to school and study?

Besides that, I believe in Malaysia population, there are millions of rakyat Malaysia which still don't earn RM3,000/month!!!

What is this? This is "Malaysia Boleh..." Sorry... it should be "Malaysians Boleh", because we're still alive and kicking!!

P/S Anyone got better suggestions on where to cut and where should add on (due to "under-calculatedness' hehe) or want to share their budget/actual expenses, you are highly welcome to! We all need some suggestion now on how to cut cost now...

The sole purpose of me joining Celebrity Fitness is for it's Capoeira Class. I have searched high & low and there are no other gym in Malaysia who actually offers Capoeira. For those of you who don't know, Capoeira in short is a Brasilian combination of dance & martial arts. It is a mixture of live musical instrumentation and voice, body and soul, rythmic and grounded movements (dancing & fighting), and intellectual exercise of strategy (using cleverness and suprise). OK that's a bit complicated, we just leave it @Brasilian combination of dance & martial arts then :) Hehe.

And what awaits me in the capoeira class is to my heart's delight ;) Here is my motivation to the Capoeira Class -our instructor Mr Harrison Jub or Harry or sometimes I so fondly called him Uncle Harry ;) Little that I know he is quite famous (in Malaysia that is. I don't know if he's famous somewhere else). Well I don't actually know if he is famous per say, but if you check out his website Harry Fitness you'll know what I mean.

Apparently he has appeared in numerous Fitness and Exercise TV Programs, Health Magazines, Fitness Magazines, Exercises Magazines, Commercial Banners, Fitness and Exercise Books, Commercial Magazines and Books; and hold lots and lots of titles:

Asia Pacific
Asia-Pacific Ironman International 2006/2007
Mr. Physique Ironman 2006/2007
Asia-Pacific International FitnessMan Champion 2005/2006
National FitnessMan Champion 2004/2005
National Hottest Hunks 2004/2005
Mr. Fitness 2003/2004/2005
Mr. Physique 2003/2004/2005
Mr. Hospitality 2004/2005
Capoeira Fitness Champion 2002/2003/2004
Junior Formado Capoeira Tournament Champion 2001/2002
Junior Body Building 1999/2000

World Tours

Capoeira Fitness Workshop Brazil, London, France, Japan, Hong Kong, Singapore,
Australia, Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand, Taiwan

Yoga Wellness & Fitness WorkshopMalaysia, Thailand, India, Australia, Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, Taiwan

World Fitness & Capoeira CampBrazil, London, France, Japan, Hong Kong, Singapore, Australia, Malaysia, Italy, Hungary, Taiwan, Spain, Thailand, Indonesia, United State

Fitness Convention Malaysia, Australia, London, France, Italy, Spain, Hungary, Singapore, Hong Kong, Japan, Hong Kong, Brazil

Fitness FestivalSpain, Brazil, Italy, London, France, Hong Kong, Singapore, Australia

Junior Capoeira Champion 1999/2000 , Junior Capoeira Fitness 1999/2000

Harry's Associates
Presenter of International Fitness Federation, Hungary
Presenter of World Fitness Federation, USA
Associate of World Capoeira Brasileira, Brazil
Associate of Grupo Capoeira Brasil, USA
Associate of International Power Yoga, USA
Associate of Yoga Alliance, USA
Associate of Ashtanga Yoga School, India

For more information on Harry and his specialization, or you need tips on how to achieve and maintain a great body, or any other fitness / health advise; please visit Harry's website Harry Fitness.

Am I promoting the Capoeira Class or Harry now? Haha. Anyway, to me the credibility of an instructor is an important criteria for there's no use of having a pretty face for an instructor BUT he's teaching crap or can bore us to death :P Well, maybe they won't teach us crap coz I'm sure the a reputable fitness such as Celebrity Fitness will do a background check on their instructors before employing thhem, but believe me I met a few who actually bore the hell out of me. Hehe.

Here are some of our Capoeira gang in Celebrity Fitness Subang Parade

I couldn't managed to get the photos of all of them so we're gonna have to make do with only a few for now. I'll add them on from time to time. :) We are quite a tight group and I feel so happy to be able to be a part of this group even though apparently they have been joining for years now.

Anyway last Saturday (16 Aug'08) we have a Capoeira Workshop with Prof Chumbinho, our maistre from HK. But I couldn't write about that yet 'cause I did not have photos for that. (Hint, hint. Harry if you read this, please provide me some photos! Huhu ;)). So stay in tune for the report on that workshop.

So anyways, anyways, ladies & gentlemen.. If you're still looking for a place fun & friendly place to workout, head on to www.CelebrityFitness.com.my! (wahhh.. I should be getting paid for the promotion!). And hope to see you guys in our Capoeira Group! Until then... Adeus e cuidar!!

Rated: U, Run Time:105mins
Genre: Comedy, Family, Romance, Science Fiction

Cast: Jeff Garlin, Benjamin Burtt, Fred Willard.

Director: Andrew Stanton

What It's About

It tells the tale of a robot left behind to clean up Earth while the human race bides its time in space, waiting for machines to fix the mess they've left behind. The year is 2700, Earth is no longer habitable due to excessive garbage and polution. Human now have to live in outer-space and the government implements robots WALL-E (Waste Allocation Load Lifter Earth-Class) to collect and dipose garbage. For hundreds of years, WALL-E has been taking out the trash, and collecting precious knick-knacks in order to stave off the boredom of his dreary routine. Little does WALL-E realize that he has recently stumbled onto a secret that could save planet Earth, and once again make the ravaged planet safe for all humankind.

When highly advanced search robot EVE makes friends with WALL-E and realizes the value of his remarkable discovery, she excitedly races back to let the humans know that there's hope for their home planet after all. But after centuries alone in space, WALL-E can't stand the thought of losing the only friend he's ever known, and eagerly follows her into the deepest reaches of space on the adventure of a lifetime. Along the way, the friendly trash-collecting robot who has always known what he was made for gradually begins to understand what he was meant for.

My Intake

I watched this movie last Sunday (17 Aug'08) and I reaaaaaaaaaally love it! Although it has very "little to say" (you'll know what I mean when you watch the movie ;)), but it manages to convey the message. It is a very, very sweet with light-hearted humour. You will find yourself feeling good, smiling, uplifted and in high-spirit when you left the cinema. Trust me, you will like it. I would 110% recommend it. :) Bring your girlfriend / boyfriend, friends & your whole family to see this movie! The children -they simply love it, I can hear them shrieking with laughter in the movie, and they keep imitating WALL-E speech. Heh. Very cute!

Oh, I will only not recommend it to a cynical & bitter person, who don't know how to enjoy themselves. Heh.

I'm giving this movie

U, 95 mins

Genre:Comedy,Science Fiction
Director: Brian Robbins
Cast: Eddie Murphy, Gabrielle Union, Ed Helms, Elizabeth Banks, Judah Friedlander

What It's About

A massive fireball from space hits New York's Central Park and an ordinary man emerges unscathed. The man turns out to be a spaceship operated by 100 human-looking aliens who are one-quarter inch tall and seeking a way to save their planet.

My Intake

I don't really like Eddie Murphy so I'm not really excited to see this movie. But since I got free tickets, I might as well just watch it. I mean how bad can a comedy be right. Even if it is a "lawak bodoh", the least I can get is a laugh or 2.

Suprisingly, this movie is really funny and not overly done like other Eddie Murphy's movies. It is lightly amusing and sweet.

Watch it if you want a good laugh and want to ease out your stress.

Don't watch it if you're a heavy drama buff who don't appreciate a light-hearted, illogical, 'funtasycal' kind of movie.

I'm giving it:

U, 122 mins
Genre: Action, Drama
Cast: Jim Sturgess, Kevin Spacey, Kate Bosworth, Laurence Fishburne
Director: Rober Luketic

What's It About

The Inside Story of Six M.I.T. Students Who Took Vegas for Millions to tell the true-life tale of six genius students who used their brains to beat considerable odds. Ben Campbell (Jim Sturgess) is a shy but genius M.I.T. student, who needs to pay for his entry to Harvard Medical School. Micky Rosa (Kevin Spacey), his professor discovers his brilliant mind, decided to recruit him to join his team of extremely gifted students who have used their mastery of numbers to beat the odds at blackjack, who heads to Vegas every weekends armed with disguises and fake identities.

This is the worst thing that I have ever posted & got really really bad threats from guyz!! Hehe. But it's fun though, so guys, please don't get your underwear in a twist! I'm posting it here -for entertainment purposes. ;)

26 October 2005
The Brutal Trust About Guys

1. Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in nappies.

2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? Just shut the door.

3. Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that you can tell them apart.

4. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable.

5. Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too old for it.

6. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.

7. If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.

8. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in, tell him cheque books.

9. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, it means that you laugh at his.

10. Sadly, all men are created equal.

This is for all you girls 30 years and over.... and for those who are turning 30, and for those who are scared of moving into their 30's...AND for guys who are scared of girls over 30!!!!... Read on.. It’s interesting…

This was written by Andy Rooney from CBS 60 Minutes.

Andy Rooney says:As I grow in age, I value women who are over 30 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 30 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.

If a woman over 30 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting.

A woman over 30 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 30 give a hoot what you might think about her or what she's doing.

Women over 30 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.

A woman over 30 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women. Women over 30 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won't betray her.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 30. They always know.

A woman over 30 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 30 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 30 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 30+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress. Heh.

Ladies, I apologise. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.

Heh. Ironic.

I used to get heavily critiqued when I posted this in my Frienster blog 3 years ago. I'm posting it here now for fun.

Words of Wisdom From Sex & The City

To all my lady friends, read this… It make good sense. Don’t be so blind. Errr… the guys can read also, as a guideline. ;) heh.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.


Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Don't force an attraction.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

There's ONLY ONE 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.

Always put yourself and your happiness first.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.

Be honest and upfront.

Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.

Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).

If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.

You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself - double standard.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!

Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.

If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.

Actions speak louder than words.

Never let a man define who you are.

NEVER rely on a man for compliments, look to YOURSELF for that.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.

To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.

Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.

Love is a verb ....

Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.

If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.

You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

Guys, sit up & pay attention again! Don't just push your face to ours :p

I've had my fair share of kisses over the years. Some, I admit, were horrible, and included things like braces, corn-chip breath, and games of tonsil hockey. But there have been some pretty sweep-me-off-my-feet kisses too, like: kissing under a sky illuminated with fireworks, a grown-up-game of spin-the-bottle (please land on green eyes—yes!), and scandalous kisses that never should have happened but felt so good. It's no wonder, of course, that my girlfriends and I want more of the latter than the former. So listen up, guys, for some advice. Here, eight women kiss and tell…

Guys, sit back straight & pay attention! The mystery is now solved! NO more wondering whether we are interested or not! ;)

Five signs your date is into you…


1. She tilts her head

When a woman sees and feels especially comfortable with a man, she will tilt her head. A tilt in any direction — right, left or down — are all signs that she's interested in getting to know you better — say, over another date.

2. She takes a sip when you take a sip

When a woman is drawn to a guy, she'll instinctively mirror his actions, Hartley says. While men do this, too, women are more likely than men to first begin the copying. What should you look for? You might notice she will shift her body in the same direction as yours or take your lead for behavior changes like picking up a glass to drink or blinking her eyes repeatedly if you're doing so. If you want to test her, lean forward and see if she comes closer, too.

3. She twirls her hair

Since the beginning of time, a woman's hair has been celebrated as a symbol of her sexuality. And it's true today. If your date begins twirling or playing with her hair while talking to you, it is a good sign she's into you and subconsciously trying to attract you.

4. She gets a glow

While blushing often means embarrassment, don't assume that her rosy cheeks are an indication of discomfort. When a woman is sexually aroused and attracted, blood flows not only to her nether regions, but also to her face, which causes her cheeks to get redder. And if your date is smitten, he adds, her lips and even eyelids will get fuller, too, he says.

5. Her pupils dilate

While your gaze is fixed on her, pay particular attention to her pupils. When a woman is attracted to a man, her pupils will dilate. Essentially, the body does this in order to allow itself to take in more of a good thing.

…and five signs your date is not into you

1. She crosses her arms

Did she assume the angry librarian stance? When a woman on a date places her hands in front of her body — especially if they are crossed — she is closing herself off from the man. If you get this red flag, you don't stand a chance… and she wants you to know it. Men are not nearly as perceptive as women, so even if she's not consciously aware of it, a woman knows her body language needs to be very loud. In this instance, that body language reads loud and clear.

2. She places her bag between you two

When I ask male friends how a blind date went, step-by-step, and they say 'she put her bag on the table, I always know that's a bad sign. If your date places her purse — a real and physical barrier — between you two, she's showing she wants to create distance. Not a good sign.

3. She speaks faster than an auctioneer

So she seems to love talking to you? Before you break open the bubbly, note the speed of her small talk. Romantic conversation does not occur at the same speed as business conversation. Conversation between two people who are attracted typically slows to about three-quarter speed and softens. In fact, most emotional conversation — with the exception of very hostile conversation — is at a slowed cadence. That said, she may be nervous early in your first date, and her nerves can cause her to spit her sentences out rapid-fire. But if by the end of the evening she's still going at a rapid rate, consider it a clue that she just wants to be friends at best.

4. She offers you a chin-up smile

Though it's tempting to interpret any old smile as a sign of interest, all smiles are not created equal. Smiles can say a lot — "I'm polite," "I'm crazy about you," and, believe it or not, "I can't stand you." The secret to decoding what her smile really means? It's all in the chin placement. A woman who gives you a relaxed, chin-down "soft smile" is smitten and wants you to dig her back. A full-on toothpaste grin or stiff and polite smile — both of which generally involve the chin raised up — mean either "I like you as a friend" or "I wanna get out of here!"

5. She strokes her neck

If your date's telling you she agrees that you should get together again, that's a good sign, right? Maybe. Her body language may be the key to the real truth. If a woman is gently stroking her neck when telling you this, it may be a sign that she's interested, but it is also known to be a sign of lying. To figure out which message she's sending, consider the aforementioned "she's not into you" signals. If she's also giving you the raised-chin smile and speaking to you over a giant purse, you may want to move on to your next prospect. ;)

Wanie Idayu: Guys, now you know that the signs that we are not interested are not that subtle after all ;) It is easier to tell when we are not interested.

The other side of this article 5 Signs He's Into You.

You might also be interested in 5 Women Every Guy's Gotta Date

I found this article a while ago & thought it would be useful to some of my really hot & nice cingle girlfriends. So look out for these signs girls!! Hope this helps! :)

And guys, please tell me if the signs are correct or incorrect OK? It'll be a BIIIGGGGG help to all girls in need if you can give some heads up.

Article by Chelsea Kaplan

Having trouble figuring out your guy's level of interest in you? Sometimes, the proof is in his body language. To understand what your honey's movement, eye contact and even posture reveal about his true feelings for you, check out these hints:

Five signs your date is into you…

1. He closes the distance

Moving in closer indicates a desire for more intimate contact. So if a guy you're talking to at a party inches a little closer as you talk, or your date slides into the same side of the booth as you, you know he wants to get to know you better—and not as a friend.

2. He speaks softly

When a man talks in a quieter voice, he's indicating that what he's saying is for your ears only. If he's telling you something private or secret, it's a good thing—guys don't do that to women they're not into. If you want to let that soft-talker know you feel the same way, respond in kind, which should quickly turn those sparks into an all-out fire. Caveat: If you're in a loud bar or restaurant, where you have to shout to be heard, you can't tell anything by his decibel level. So wait until you're walking or driving home to see whether he's turned the volume down.

3. He rounds his posture

Hypermasculine body language (think: swaggering walk, standing tall with shoulders back and chin up, etc.) serves to attract women from a distance. But when a guy is talking close-up with a woman he likes, he will soften, or "round" his body language. If your guy's squared shoulders cave in when he's chatting with you, he's indicating that he feels comfortable and secure in your presence.

4. He talks slowwwly

Like birds in a mating dance, men typically talk more slowly and softly when they are attracted to someone. Of course, if he knocked back a few gigante lattes on a first date, he may be too wired (and nervous) to sound like Barry White, but give it time: If his speech starts to make you feel sleepy, he's a goner.

5. He can't take his eyes off you (in a good way)

So his eyes are locked on yours? As long as it isn't a psycho stare, but rather a lingering, heavy-lidded, "Wow, you're amazing" gaze, that guy is digging you big-time. :)

..and 5 signs your date is not into you

1. He's four feet away

If his motto may as well be The Police's "Don't Stand So Close to Me", he's not feelin' you romantically. How do you define "distance"? If he remains four feet or more away from you, it is a clear signal that his heart's not in it.

2. He stands at an oblique angle facing you

Most men do not realize that when talking to another man, they stand at oblique angles, with one shoulder facing the other's face, yet when they talk to women — especially ones we're interested in romantically — they stand face-to-face with them. So, f your guy's shoulder is pointing in the direction of your face during conversation, he's subconsciously showing disinterest or is trying to turn you off.

3. He sounds like that guy in accounting

If your date is talking to you like you're someone at the office — meaning the pace is quick and the level of his voice is rather strong —he's probably just trying to keep it to friend level. With time, you might notice a change — after all, he just might want to keep it "professional" on the first date or two while he gets to know you — but if it remains this way after a few dates, cut your losses.

4. He stares at your mouth

When a guy focuses on your lips, what he's really trying to do is avoid eye contact. If he's avoiding eye contact, you can pretty safely assume he's not into you. If your date fixes his gaze below your face, he's probably interested in you, but perhaps not for a long-term relationship, if you know what I mean…

5. He's out of sync with your body language

When a guy is romantically interested in you, he will mimic your body language, so if he doesn't copy you, gesture for gesture, odds are he isn't smitten. To test the waters, try leaning in closer to your date, using your hands to emphasize what you're saying. If your guy does the same, it's a great sign. But if he keeps his hands still, pulls away or takes a step backwards, he may be unavailable or just plain not interested.

For the other side of this story, read 5 Signs She's Into You.

Choosing Life Partner

Especially for those of u who are not married. And those who are, u can review your married life based on these. So please take time off n go thru the stuff coz it really makes sense.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love. "I believe is the #1mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may not sound politically correct, there's a profound truth here.

Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then love will come. Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot MORE!

Here are 5 questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding AND keeping a life partner.

QUESTION # 1
Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 to 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat, sex and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage.1.You can grow together, or 2.You can grow apart. 50 % of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottom line - and marry someone who wants the same thing. If the so & so you're in love with; doesn't want the same thing you do; you might as well opt out of it now than when its too late.

QUESTION # 2:
Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust. i.e trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION # 3:
Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive. How can you test? Here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing" So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in this world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You needto know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION # 4:
How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following:
1. How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, busboy, taxi driver, etc.?
2. How do they treat parents and siblings?
3. Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
4. Do they show respect?If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you-who cant do nearly as much for them!
5. Do they gossip and speak badly about others?Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION # 5:
Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage and for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. There is no point in putting restrictions on your life partner. If you love him/her you will accept him/her as they are.

In conclusion, selecting your partner doesn’t have to be difficult & treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are selecting, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

I've learned....That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I've learned....That when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned....That just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day.

I've learned....That being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned....That you should never say "no" to a gift from a child.

I've learned....That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned....That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned....That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned....That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned....That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned....That money doesn't buy class.

I've learned....That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I've learned...That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned....That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
I've learned....That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I've learned....That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned....That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned....That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned....That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned....That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've learned....That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned....That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned....That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned....That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned....That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I've learned....That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.

I've learned....That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned ...That it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life threatening situation.

I've learned....That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

P/S The unrealized lessons of life... :)

I was digging thru' the junk documents in my thumbdrive and I found this old blogpost of mine. In Friendster originally. Written on 9 Dec'05, but I'm re-posting it here so that I can re-share the experience.. Check it out...

9th December 2005

It has been so long since I jot down something here. But I just had the most refreshing conversation with a very wise friend of mine and I wanna share it with all of you.
This person is a very senior person (and wise, I may add again) in our company. I was having lunch with him today. And he talked to me about 2 things –How to be happy in life & in a relationship. He said all the feelings that we’re feeling is just a state of mind. Hence, if we’re bored with a person or bored with our lives, its all just inside our mind! And we are the only person that can change that. We are responsible for our own happiness. Happy conditions does not mean that we will be happy all the time. i.e. “If I have a lot of money (conditions), I will be happy or if I have a big car (conditions), I will be happy” But then, how come some people who have all that are still not happy? Because it’s all is state of mind. Therefore, in order for us to create happy conditions, we ourselves must be happy first. So we will have to change/adjust our way of thinking. Thus, a happy person will create a happy conditions. Need further clarification on the above? Set up an appointment with me, and we’ll talk this over the tarik. ;) Heh.

As for being happy in a relationship, he said that “Seek to understand, then, we will be understood”. Often we are so selfish as to tune our partner to our needs, when we ourselves are blind to theirs. On why are they reacting this/that way and stuff. If both of us practice this way of thinking & understanding, I’m sure that we will have a long-lasting relationship. Bored with the same person? It’s in the state of mind. We are responsible for our own happiness right? We are what we are today is because of our own doing. A cheater? A liar? Happiness is within ourselves. Don’t forget that & we’ll be happy wherever we are, whomever we’re with. Oh, & I tell you this –this man really knows what he talks about. Why? He’s been courting his current wife since he’s 16 years old, and now his 60 and still happily married. Never strayed away from his 1 true love. “But mind you!” he said, it’s not easy, it need working. We know, we see that there are a lot of beautiful people in this world, there’ll always be someone more prettier, more brainier, more interesting than our partner. But are we going to leave/cheat on our partner everytime we meet a better person? The choice is in our own hands. State of mind. We are what we are by our own doing. Remember? Heh.

I feel very blessed knowing all the people I knew. I love meeting people (as long as they’re not some psychopath or sex maniac! Eeuuuuwwwhhh!!). And to me if we really wanted to evolve as person we must be open to accept different types of people in our circle of friends. That’s how we grow as a person. Continuous improvement. Sticking to the same ‘ol circle will constraint our thinking and believes and self-development. Therefore if we wanna be a better person, to improve our lives; expand our circle of friends, and probably I’ll hear u guyz sharing your experiences and discoveries with me too!!

Have A Nice Day Everybody!!! =)

Experience taught me to never give excuse to any man, ever. He didn’t call –he’s just not interested, you're not in his mind, you're not important enough to call, etc etc. He didn’t ask to see you –again, he’s just not interested, you're not in his mind, you're not important enough to spend some of his time. As simple as that. Don’t think about the maybes… he’s busy wif his work.. bla bla bla.. Just, don’t! Coz there’s just no excuse. Wanna talk about work? U will have work ‘till you die. Unless you get very, very lucky. No time to meet up / go out for date? There’s always the phone. Still very very busy? 5 minutes to just ask how you are, that he can’t see you but would very much want to, he can’t talk long… bla bla bla. Still no time? Then, it’s back to –you're not important enough for him to make that call. Heh.