I've Gone Crazy!  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Yup you heard me right. I’ve gone crazy! Book crazy that is. Yesterday, I have bought RM138.40 worth of books! :p I only got to write about it today coz yesterday the internet was down and so I can’t make post… Anyways there are 10 books altogether, and if you think about it, it’s a bargain coz on average, 1 book only costs like RM13++ , PLUS it’s tax deductible!! Huhu.


I bought it @a bargain bookstore named BookXcess where they sell previous years books at a very cheap price. Nope, it is not a “Rent-A-Book” or secondhand book shop. The books there are definitely first hand / new. Other than renowned names like Sidney Sheldon, John Grisham, JRR Tolkien; they also have non-fiction, biography, self-help, love, kids, etc (the usual categories you would see @ a bookstore). The same books will still be sold at the same price @popular book chains such as MPH, Popular, etc. etc., even if they’re already outdated. Believe me, I’ve checked.

Anyway, check out the titles that I have bought:

(1) The Doomsday Conspiracy
Author: Sidney Sheldon
Published: 1993
Price bought @BookXcess: RM17.90
Summary: Commander Robert Bellamy, a Naval Intelligence agent, is awakened by a telephone call at 4:00 A.M., in which he is asked to report to the director of the NSA (National Security Agency). Once there, he is assigned the top secret job of locating ten people who were on a tour of Switzerland, who witnessed the crash of a UFO. After he uncovers a witness, they are brutally murdered by their country's government. Bellamy uncovers an international conspiracy. He is forced to play a dangerous game of hide and seek with the world's strongest governments, who are out to silence him because of the knowledge he possesses.

(2) The Sky Is Falling
Author: Sidney Sheldon (yeah I like Sidney Sheldon. Now you know. Hehe)
Published: 2001
Price bought @BookXcess: RM17.90
Summary: Revolves around Dana Evans, a TV achorwoman who finds herself involved in a series of killings of people from the same family.

(3) Are You Afraid Of The Dark
Author: Sidney Sheldon
Published: 2005
Price bought @BookXcess: RM17.90
Plot summary: Tanner Kingsley takes white-collar crime to new heights by using his billion-dollar think tank corporation to create a machine for himself, which can control the weather. Prima is actually the brainchild of Tanner's older brother, Andrew Kingsley, who heads up the Kingsley Group think tank. Andrew initially creates Prima in the hopes of addressing the environmental problem of global warming.
Andrew's brother, Tanner, is not as concerned with solving the world's problems as his older brother. Instead, Tanner dreams of turning the philanthropic Kingsley Group into a supercharged think tank devoted to earning profit and power. He is a megalomaniac of the highest order, who intends to hold the world hostage once.....

(4) Playing for Pizza (Hard Cover)
Author: John Grisham
Published: 2007 (Wow… This is quite recent)
Price bought @BookXcess: RM24.90
Synopsis: Cut from the Cleveland Browns after the worst performance in the history of the NFL, third-stringer Rick Dockery, desperate to play football, is hired by the Panthers of Parma, Italy, to be their starting quarterback and finds himself confronted by the confusing diversity of Italian culture, language, and romance.

(5) Drop Dead Beautiful (Hard Cover)
Author: Jackie Collins
Published: 2007
Price bought @BookXcess: RM24.90
Summary: It's all about Collins most popular heroine—the wildly beautiful Lucky Santangelo—still every bit as strong, sexy, and seductive as ever. But Lucky is older and wiser, and hot to reclaim her power position in Las Vegas. However, a deadly enemy from her past has resurfaced—a person determined to take everything from her, including the family she holds so dear: two sons and an out-of-control teenage daughter who is just as outrageous as Lucky herself. Like mother, like daughter. And if that old saying holds true, it's going to be one wild ride.

(6) Fearless (5-In-1)
Author: Francine Pascal (I used to love Francine Pascal when I’m a teenager)
Published: 2002
Price bought @BookXcess: RM34.90
“I am powerful
I am graceful
I am angry
I am pure
I am raw
I am alone

I am Gaia
I am just like you
But I’m not – I am FEARLESS
…a girl born without the fear gene”

The thing is, I have noooooo idea when I will be able to finish all 6 what with me juggling work, dancing class, gym class, movies, DVDs, housekeeping, going back to parents, wedding arrangement and normal TV!

Anyway, if you’re looking for bargain books like these, head on to:

BookXcess
L3-57, Amcorp Mall
18, Jln Persiaran Barat
46050 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03-79560455
And nope, I’m not getting paid for promoting them :p

Or if you’d rather get bargain online, head on to:



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7 Skin-Care Myths Busted!  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

You can see straight through a bad pickup line. (Stars in your eyes? Puh-leez.) But when it comes to beauty, there are still some falsehoods floating around that you might not be on to yet. Get ready to wise up.

THE MYTH: Using more of a product will make it work faster.
THE TRUTH: In most cases, heaping on a skin-care product is only going to land you in the dermatologist’s office faster. Anything that contains an active ingredient will irritate your skin if you overdo it. The most common active ones are vitamin C, retinol, and alpha hydroxy acids (like glycolic), which work to smooth the skin and soften lines, and beta-hydroxy acids (like salicylic) and benzoyl peroxide, which clear breakouts. If you’re using something that contains these ingredients, apply just enough to barely cover the area you’re treating. If you’re using a retinol cream, for example, a pea-size dab will do the trick.

THE MYTH: Everyone needs to use a toner.
THE TRUTH: Ninety percent of people using toners shouldn’t be. In most cases, they strip the skin of the oil it needs to stay soft. Just cleansing is enough to remove surface dirt and oils. But what about that dark stuff you see on the cotton ball after you cleanse? It’s not dirt. It’s healthy oils that darken when exposed to air. So who should use a toner? Only people with very oily or acne-prone skin. If this is you, look for one with alcohol and salicylic acid to fight breakouts.

THE MYTH: You can get addicted to your favorite lip balm.
THE TRUTH: There’s no basis to the conspiracy theory that lip balms are spiked with ingredients that make your lips drier (so you have to use them more often and replenish your stash). Balms simply make your lips look and feel soft, so we tend to reapply them as soon as they wear off. But there’s no possibility of physical addiction.The real issue is that lip-balm application is often accompanied by lip licking. That constant wetting and drying becomes a habit, and that’s what depletes moisture. To stop the cycle and start fresh, apply cortisone cream to your lips and top it with Vaseline for a week. Then stick to balms that contain petrolatum, glycerin, or mineral oil — they won’t rub off easily or irritate your lips.

THE MYTH: The more SPF products you layer on, the higher your level of sun protection will be.
THE TRUTH: Between your SPF 30 moisturizer, SPF 15 foundation, and SPF 10 powder, you probably think you’re up to an SPF of 55, right? Wrong. While your math is impressive, sun protection, unfortunately, isn’t cumulative. If you’re wearing layers of SPF, you’re only protected up to the highest number that you put on. So in this case, 30 plus 15 plus 10 equals...30.


THE MYTH: Everyone needs to buy a separate eye cream.
THE TRUTH: The skin around your eyes is the thinnest on your body, so it needs a little extra TLC. But that doesn’t mean you need to drop a Benjamin on an itsy-bitsy jar of eye cream. If you use a very hydrating face cream, there’s no reason you can’t apply it up to your eyes. You don’t need another product.To avoid any problems, make sure your moisturizer is fragrance-free — fragrance is the number one cause of irritation in skin-care products. If it contains sunscreen (and in the a.m., it should), physical ray repellers (zinc oxide and titanium dioxide) are less likely to bother your eyes than chemical ones (avobenzone and oxybenzone) are. And even if you slap cream on the rest of your face, use your ring finger to dab it under your eyes and on your lids; it will keep you from tugging on delicate skin.


THE MYTH: You won’t see results if you don’t use a brand’s entire line.
THE TRUTH: That’s what the lady at the counter said before she asked for your credit card. But you may be doing your skin more service by picking and choosing products from different lines. There are a lot of great skin-care companies, but no one has the market cornered. One might make a great moisturizer, another a fantastic cleanser. You should find the best combination for you. Score samples so you can test out brands without breaking the bank. (Many department-store lines dole out freebies, and drugstore brands often have giveaways on their Websites.)

THE MYTH: Your mascara might go bad, but not the stuff you use on your skin.
THE TRUTH: No such luck. The night cream that’s been sitting on your dresser for two years? It’s probably not doing much for you at this point. Over time, the ingredients in face-care products evaporate or degrade, so they don’t work as well. If the product’s old enough that its preservatives have worn off, it’s also vulnerable to bacteria. The rule of thumb is to replace any skin-related item after a year. That’s about how long preservatives remain stable. Some products now come with a label that tells you how many months (6, 12, 15...) they last after you’ve opened them. How do you remember when that was? Use a permanent marker to write the date on the bottom of the bottle.


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10 Common Hair-Care Myths  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Think brushing your hair 100 strokes each night is healthy? Will frequent trims really make your hair grow faster? Read on to discover the simple truths behind great hair.

Myth #1: Frequent trims make hair grow faster.
Truth:
Hair grows a half-inch per month, whether you cut it or not. Hair may grow slightly faster in the summer, but that has nothing to do with the stylist's scissors and everything to do with hormones, which do speed growth a little. One thing a trim will do: Eliminate split ends, making hair look better.

Myth #2: Stress can make your hair fall out.
Truth:
Although your hair is falling out all the time, to the tune of 50 to 120 strands per day, it's possible that you may lose a few more strands when you're "catastrophically" stressed, meaning you have had a major life change such as a divorce, lost job, or surgery. Other culprits are pregnancy or antibiotics. After a few weeks, it will almost certainly grow back.
Myth #3: Switching shampoos can make hair look healthier.
Truth:
It may seem so, but hair expert says that hair can't tell the difference between brands or build up tolerance to any product. Your favorite shampoo will work the same every time you lather up, week after week, month after month. If you have very oily hair or favor a particularly sticky styling product that contains wax, it does pay to use a clarifying shampoo once every two weeks to wash away residue.
Myth #4: If you pluck out one gray hair, two or three will sprout in its place.
Truth:
While this isn't true, plucking out those gray strands is a bad habit. You can damage the roots, causing infection or leaving a scar.
Myth #5: You can't make flat, fine hair look full of body.
Truth:
Five minutes with a set of large hot rollers will add life to straight hair.
Myth #6: To get really clean hair, you must "lather, rinse, and repeat."
Truth:
One thorough washing will do the trick.
Myth #7: Rinsing with ice-cold water after a shampoo will give you shinier hair.
Truth:
It might wake you up, but a dousing of cold water will have no effect on the shininess of your tresses. You are actually supposed to wash your hair with warm water so that the hair cuticles will open, and when rinsing off the conditioner, use cold water so that hair cuticle will close again.
Myth #8: Coloring your hair causes major damage.
Truth:
Products today — both at home and in the salon — are gentle enough not to weaken hair. In fact, some contain extra conditioners that may leave hair more manageable than before. Although it's not necessary, it can't hurt to consult a professional stylist the first time you do anything permanent to your hair or scalp.
Myth #9: You can mend split ends with the right products.
Truth:
Once they're split, that's it. The only thing you can do then is cut them off. You can only make split ends less noticeable by applying a product containing silicone or beeswax. It will temporarily seal ends together, making hair softer and more manageable.
Myth #10: You should brush your hair 100 strokes every day.
Truth:
Brush it only to style it, because brushing pulls hairs out of their follicles and possibly weakens individual strands.


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Things Guys Should Know About Girls. (Hehe…)  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

1. Don't ever lie to us; we always FIND OUT!

2. We DON'T ENJOY talking dirty to you as much as you enjoy listening.

3. Don't say you understand when you don't.

4. Girls are pretty, but yours is ALWAYS the Prettiest!

5. You don't have PMS; don't f***kin act like you know what it's like.

6. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.

7. If you talk about having a big D***; we know you don't.

8. Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls that want real relationships9. We don't like it when you act like Mr. Big.

10. A system in your car only impresses your homeboys not us.

11. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe.

12. It's good to be sensitive, sometimes.

13. If you did something wrong or even if you didn't, apologize

14. Be spontaneous; dinner and a movie won't always cut it.

15. We are self-conscious by nature; we can't help it. 16. We are DRAMA queens.

17. Fashion police do exist.

18. Don't ask us to give u head; if you are nice you just might get it.

19. We absolutely DO NOT care about monster trucks, car systems, paintball, or anything else you and your friends talk about... in other words shut the f*** up !

20. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times. ;)

21. We don't shave our legs everyday so get over it.

22. Don't make bets about us; we will always find out.

23. Shave; no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or mustache looks, we always hate it.

24. Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emit other strange gases from your body, it isn’t, so DON’T..!!

25. Don't compare our breasts with Pamela Anderson's; hers are fake, just remember that. (u have a better shot at ours than you ever will with hers, you may as well give it up now)

26. It is not cool to shoot snot rockets.

27. We are BEAUTIFUL at all times.

28. We will always think we are fat, so humor us and tell us we aren't.

29. You can shoot hoops, score a goal, knock down big fat guys, and hit a little baseball with a stick, so why the hell can't you piss in the toilet and not on it.

30. Most importantly: WE ARE ALWAYS RIGHT; so don't forget it! ;p


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I Am Special...  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

This is dedicated to all my friends (past, current & future) who ever doubted themselves...

I am special. In all the world, there is nobody like me.

Since the beginning of time there has never been
another person like me. Nobody has my smile.
Nobody has my eyes, my nose, my hair, my voice.
I'm special.

Nobody anywhere has my tastes, for food or music
or art. No one sees things just as I do.

In all of time there has been no one who laughs
like me, no one who cries like me. And what makes
me laugh and cry will never provoke identical
laughter and tears for anybody else, ever.

No one reacts to any situation just as I would react.
I'm Special..!

I'm the only one in all of creation who has my
set of abilities. Oh! There will always be
somebody who is better at some of the things I'm
good at, but no one in the universe can reach the
quality of my combination of talents, ideas,
abilities and feelings. Like a room full of
musical instruments, some may excel alone, but
none can match the symphony, when all are played
together. I'm a symphony.

Through all entity no one will ever look, walk,
think or do like me. I'm Special, I'm rare.

And as in all reality, there is great value.
Because of my rare value, I need not attempt to
imitate others. I will accept, yes!
Celebrate my differences.

I'm special and I'm beginning to realize it's no
accident that I'm special. I'm beginning to see
that God made me special for a very special
purpose. He must have a job for me that no one
else can do as well as I. Out of all billion
applicants only one qualified, only one has the
right combination of what it takes.

That one is ME ... Because I'M SPECIAL !!!!!!!!!

If you like this post, you might like this one too I've Learned...


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Is Earning RM3K Per Month Enough in Malaysia?  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

This is originally posted by my good friend Uncle Tim Ho in 2007. When petrol price and our essentials i.e. rice, bread, butter, etc. etc. haven't gone up yet. :p Now, slightly adjusted by myself...

Very interesting... read on. Somebody should get this to 'people on top'…
Let's do some simple calculations here.

In Malaysia, the average family income is RM3,000 /month (where father works, mother doesn't).

I understand there are many families whose monthly income does not reach RM3,000, but, to make things simple, let's take RM3,000 as the figure. Ok lah, right?

Okay, let's start rolling with a family which has Papa, Mama, 1 daughter and 1 son.

Calculation starts...

Electricity and water bill: RM100
(No air-con, No home theatre, No water heater)

Phone bill (Telekom): RM100

Meals for a happy family: RM775
(3 meals on RM25/day, RM25 for 4 persons…?)

Papa makan during working hrs: RM155
(RM5/day, RM5 … can eat what?)

Car repayment: RM400
(A proton saga aeroback, 7 yrs repayment)

Petrol (living in city, traffic-jam): RM300
(go to work, bring son to school, only can afford one car running. By the way, is RM300 still enough nowadays??)

Insurance: RM650
(kids, wife and father)

House repayment: RM750
(low cost housing repayment for 30 yrs, retired still have to work to pay!)

Tuition: RM80
(got that cheap meh? i don't think so)

Older children pocket money @ school: RM20
(RM1/day, eat bread?)

School fees: RM30
(enough ah?)

School books and etc: RM100
(always got extra to pay in school)

Younger children milk powder: RM50
(cannot have the DHA, BHA, PHA one, expensive)

Miscellaneous: RM100
(shampoo, rice, sauce, toilet paper)

Oh wait!!! I have to stop here, so... No Astro, no movie @ cinema, no DVD, no CD, no online, cannot KFC, cannot McDonald, cannot go Park walk during weekend (petrol expensive), no chit chat on phone with grandparents, and etc...

Let's use a calculator to total up... WALAO EH! RM3,610 already…

Already reached RM3,610... even without deduction of EPF, Socso & Income Tax...

If like this, how to survive...?

Our Prime Minister asked us to change lifestyle? How to change? Don't eat? Don't work? Don't send children to school and study?

Besides that, I believe in Malaysia population, there are millions of rakyat Malaysia which still don't earn RM3,000/month!!!

What is this? This is "Malaysia Boleh..." Sorry... it should be "Malaysians Boleh", because we're still alive and kicking!!

P/S Anyone got better suggestions on where to cut and where should add on (due to "under-calculatedness' hehe) or want to share their budget/actual expenses, you are highly welcome to! We all need some suggestion now on how to cut cost now...


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Capoeira Class in Celebrity Fitness  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

The sole purpose of me joining Celebrity Fitness is for it's Capoeira Class. I have searched high & low and there are no other gym in Malaysia who actually offers Capoeira. For those of you who don't know, Capoeira in short is a Brasilian combination of dance & martial arts. It is a mixture of live musical instrumentation and voice, body and soul, rythmic and grounded movements (dancing & fighting), and intellectual exercise of strategy (using cleverness and suprise). OK that's a bit complicated, we just leave it @Brasilian combination of dance & martial arts then :) Hehe.

And what awaits me in the capoeira class is to my heart's delight ;) Here is my motivation to the Capoeira Class -our instructor Mr Harrison Jub or Harry or sometimes I so fondly called him Uncle Harry ;) Little that I know he is quite famous (in Malaysia that is. I don't know if he's famous somewhere else). Well I don't actually know if he is famous per say, but if you check out his website Harry Fitness you'll know what I mean.

Apparently he has appeared in numerous Fitness and Exercise TV Programs, Health Magazines, Fitness Magazines, Exercises Magazines, Commercial Banners, Fitness and Exercise Books, Commercial Magazines and Books; and hold lots and lots of titles:

Asia Pacific
Asia-Pacific Ironman International 2006/2007
Mr. Physique Ironman 2006/2007
Asia-Pacific International FitnessMan Champion 2005/2006
National FitnessMan Champion 2004/2005
National Hottest Hunks 2004/2005
Mr. Fitness 2003/2004/2005
Mr. Physique 2003/2004/2005
Mr. Hospitality 2004/2005
Capoeira Fitness Champion 2002/2003/2004
Junior Formado Capoeira Tournament Champion 2001/2002
Junior Body Building 1999/2000


World Tours

Capoeira Fitness Workshop Brazil, London, France, Japan, Hong Kong, Singapore,
Australia, Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand, Taiwan

Yoga Wellness & Fitness WorkshopMalaysia, Thailand, India, Australia, Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, Taiwan

World Fitness & Capoeira CampBrazil, London, France, Japan, Hong Kong, Singapore, Australia, Malaysia, Italy, Hungary, Taiwan, Spain, Thailand, Indonesia, United State

Fitness Convention Malaysia, Australia, London, France, Italy, Spain, Hungary, Singapore, Hong Kong, Japan, Hong Kong, Brazil

Fitness FestivalSpain, Brazil, Italy, London, France, Hong Kong, Singapore, Australia

Junior Capoeira Champion 1999/2000 , Junior Capoeira Fitness 1999/2000


Harry's Associates
Presenter of International Fitness Federation, Hungary
Presenter of World Fitness Federation, USA
Associate of World Capoeira Brasileira, Brazil
Associate of Grupo Capoeira Brasil, USA
Associate of International Power Yoga, USA
Associate of Yoga Alliance, USA
Associate of Ashtanga Yoga School, India

For more information on Harry and his specialization, or you need tips on how to achieve and maintain a great body, or any other fitness / health advise; please visit Harry's website Harry Fitness.

Am I promoting the Capoeira Class or Harry now? Haha. Anyway, to me the credibility of an instructor is an important criteria for there's no use of having a pretty face for an instructor BUT he's teaching crap or can bore us to death :P Well, maybe they won't teach us crap coz I'm sure the a reputable fitness such as Celebrity Fitness will do a background check on their instructors before employing thhem, but believe me I met a few who actually bore the hell out of me. Hehe.

Here are some of our Capoeira gang in Celebrity Fitness Subang Parade

I couldn't managed to get the photos of all of them so we're gonna have to make do with only a few for now. I'll add them on from time to time. :) We are quite a tight group and I feel so happy to be able to be a part of this group even though apparently they have been joining for years now.
Anyway last Saturday (16 Aug'08) we have a Capoeira Workshop with Prof Chumbinho, our maistre from HK. But I couldn't write about that yet 'cause I did not have photos for that. (Hint, hint. Harry if you read this, please provide me some photos! Huhu ;)). So stay in tune for the report on that workshop.

So anyways, anyways, ladies & gentlemen.. If you're still looking for a place fun & friendly place to workout, head on to www.CelebrityFitness.com.my! (wahhh.. I should be getting paid for the promotion!). And hope to see you guys in our Capoeira Group! Until then... Adeus e cuidar!!


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Movie Review -WALL-E  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Rated: U, Run Time:105mins
Genre: Comedy, Family, Romance, Science Fiction

Cast: Jeff Garlin, Benjamin Burtt, Fred Willard.
Director: Andrew Stanton


What It's About

It tells the tale of a robot left behind to clean up Earth while the human race bides its time in space, waiting for machines to fix the mess they've left behind. The year is 2700, Earth is no longer habitable due to excessive garbage and polution. Human now have to live in outer-space and the government implements robots WALL-E (Waste Allocation Load Lifter Earth-Class) to collect and dipose garbage. For hundreds of years, WALL-E has been taking out the trash, and collecting precious knick-knacks in order to stave off the boredom of his dreary routine. Little does WALL-E realize that he has recently stumbled onto a secret that could save planet Earth, and once again make the ravaged planet safe for all humankind.


When highly advanced search robot EVE makes friends with WALL-E and realizes the value of his remarkable discovery, she excitedly races back to let the humans know that there's hope for their home planet after all. But after centuries alone in space, WALL-E can't stand the thought of losing the only friend he's ever known, and eagerly follows her into the deepest reaches of space on the adventure of a lifetime. Along the way, the friendly trash-collecting robot who has always known what he was made for gradually begins to understand what he was meant for.

My Intake

I watched this movie last Sunday (17 Aug'08) and I reaaaaaaaaaally love it! Although it has very "little to say" (you'll know what I mean when you watch the movie ;)), but it manages to convey the message. It is a very, very sweet with light-hearted humour. You will find yourself feeling good, smiling, uplifted and in high-spirit when you left the cinema. Trust me, you will like it. I would 110% recommend it. :) Bring your girlfriend / boyfriend, friends & your whole family to see this movie! The children -they simply love it, I can hear them shrieking with laughter in the movie, and they keep imitating WALL-E speech. Heh. Very cute!

Oh, I will only not recommend it to a cynical & bitter person, who don't know how to enjoy themselves. Heh.
I'm giving this movie


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Movie Review -Meet Dave  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

U, 95 mins

Genre:Comedy,Science Fiction
Director: Brian Robbins
Cast: Eddie Murphy, Gabrielle Union, Ed Helms, Elizabeth Banks, Judah Friedlander

What It's About

A massive fireball from space hits New York's Central Park and an ordinary man emerges unscathed. The man turns out to be a spaceship operated by 100 human-looking aliens who are one-quarter inch tall and seeking a way to save their planet.

My Intake

I don't really like Eddie Murphy so I'm not really excited to see this movie. But since I got free tickets, I might as well just watch it. I mean how bad can a comedy be right. Even if it is a "lawak bodoh", the least I can get is a laugh or 2.

Suprisingly, this movie is really funny and not overly done like other Eddie Murphy's movies. It is lightly amusing and sweet.

Watch it if you want a good laugh and want to ease out your stress.

Don't watch it if you're a heavy drama buff who don't appreciate a light-hearted, illogical, 'funtasycal' kind of movie.

I'm giving it:


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Movie Review -21  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

U, 122 mins
Genre: Action, Drama
Cast: Jim Sturgess, Kevin Spacey, Kate Bosworth, Laurence Fishburne
Director: Rober Luketic

What's It About

The Inside Story of Six M.I.T. Students Who Took Vegas for Millions to tell the true-life tale of six genius students who used their brains to beat considerable odds. Ben Campbell (Jim Sturgess) is a shy but genius M.I.T. student, who needs to pay for his entry to Harvard Medical School. Micky Rosa (Kevin Spacey), his professor discovers his brilliant mind, decided to recruit him to join his team of extremely gifted students who have used their mastery of numbers to beat the odds at blackjack, who heads to Vegas every weekends armed with disguises and fake identities.


What I Like


The notion that we can actually "cheat the system" is really intoxicating, and what makes me look forward to their visit to Vegas again and again. And the suspense on whether they will get caught.

What I Don't Like


That Micky (Spacey) mentors his proteges on the joys of self-indulgence, but an show a sudden abrupt switch in his demeanor which is shallow and unconvincing. And we never do learn why it is that with the foolproof system Micky's been employing for decades, he's still toiling in the classroom rather than sipping boat drinks in the Bahamas.

Plus, Kate Bosworth as Jill Taylor is little more than window-dressing here, while Sturgess is merely adequate as the naive young genius seduced by corrupt influences.

Final Verdict:


In the beginning it is really exciting but the plot slows down and got a bit boring in the middle. But all in all, this is an entertaining movie. I don't regret watching it. Watch it if you like playing with figures, blackjack and gambling, or "dream" of "richness". Odds are you'll enjoy yourself

I'm giving it



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How Do Men See Me... (Is it? ;))  

Posted by Wanie Idayu


Men See You As Desirable


Men often find you immediately attractive and sensual

You're honesty is refreshingly beautiful ... it draws guys in

You are also able to be open with your feelings with no emotional baggage

Packing light means you enjoy new relationships easily


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The Brutal Truth About Guys (Girls!! Read Up!!)  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

This is the worst thing that I have ever posted & got really really bad threats from guyz!! Hehe. But it's fun though, so guys, please don't get your underwear in a twist! I'm posting it here -for entertainment purposes. ;)

26 October 2005
The Brutal Trust About Guys

1. Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in nappies.

2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? Just shut the door.

3. Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that you can tell them apart.

4. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable.

5. Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too old for it.

6. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.

7. If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.

8. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in, tell him cheque books.

9. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, it means that you laugh at his.

10. Sadly, all men are created equal.


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Interesting Facts About Women 30++ (ME!!)  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

This is for all you girls 30 years and over.... and for those who are turning 30, and for those who are scared of moving into their 30's...AND for guys who are scared of girls over 30!!!!... Read on.. It’s interesting…

This was written by Andy Rooney from CBS 60 Minutes.

Andy Rooney says:As I grow in age, I value women who are over 30 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 30 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.

If a woman over 30 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting.

A woman over 30 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 30 give a hoot what you might think about her or what she's doing.

Women over 30 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.

A woman over 30 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women. Women over 30 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won't betray her.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 30. They always know.

A woman over 30 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 30 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 30 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 30+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress. Heh.

Ladies, I apologise. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.

Heh. Ironic.


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Words of Wisdom From Sex & The City  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

I used to get heavily critiqued when I posted this in my Frienster blog 3 years ago. I'm posting it here now for fun.

Words of Wisdom From Sex & The City

To all my lady friends, read this… It make good sense. Don’t be so blind. Errr… the guys can read also, as a guideline. ;) heh.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.


Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Don't force an attraction.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

There's ONLY ONE 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.

Always put yourself and your happiness first.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.

Be honest and upfront.

Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.

Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).

If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.

You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself - double standard.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!

Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.

If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.

Actions speak louder than words.

Never let a man define who you are.

NEVER rely on a man for compliments, look to YOURSELF for that.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.

To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.

Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.

Love is a verb ....

Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.

If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.

You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.


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Men Point-Of-View: How To Be A Better Kisser  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

I'm just sharing this article from Matt Christensen coz obviously I'm not a man :p So, I'm sharing his experience not mine OK? So guys, if this is true, or if there are any other ways you'd like to be kissed (no dirty stuff puhhlleaaaaze), please let us know, aight? Check it out girls!! (And guys).

How To Be A Better Kisser by Matt Christensen

As with driving, cooking, and cage fighting, kissing is a skill that requires practice. Most women like to think they've come a long way since locking braces with their high-school sweetheart. And they have! But still, there's plenty more they could learn. Follow along with some tales of woe, and some tales of whoa, and take notes on the dos and don'ts of kissing a man.

Lean to the right

Lean to the right. I thought that was common knowledge, but I've been with at least three girls who went left when we went in for a kiss. It was adorably awkward, I guess, but I would've much rather avoided the conspicuous bruise that showed up on my forehead. I had to explain that it wasn't a hickey, but a battle wound caused by make-out misdirection. To any woman who reads this, remember, go right.

Take charge

Don't be afraid to take the lead. I was at a bar on New Year's Eve and, when the ball dropped, some of my female friends and I exchanged quick smooches. Then I locked eyes with a cute friend of a friend, who I'd never really met before. The mood took over, and we started to kiss. Next thing I knew, my back was against the bar and we were deeply making out. Her kissing style wasn't overly aggressive, just firm, confident, and sexy. She took charge, and I was powerless to resist.—Steve, writer

Close your eyes

I had one girlfriend who, for some reason, always kept her eyes open when we kissed. I'd get this strange feeling that I was being watched while we made out, only to open my eyes briefly to find her staring back at me. Not only was it disconcerting as hell, but it made me self-conscious. Was she picking apart my moves? Did I make some kind of funny face I wasn't aware of? I'd be completely thrown for the rest of the night. —Jon, editor

Get your hands in on the action

Run them through my hair, or, if you really want to get me going, stroke my neck. Yeah, it's a bit effeminate of me, but it makes me feel as if she's enjoying it so much that she can't control herself. Just lip-to-lip contact is the missionary position of making out. —Timothy, writer

Pause before you pucker

A well-timed pause can really add to a passionate kiss. I love it when a girl leans in but doesn't lock lips right away. She'll go right to the point where we're about to close our eyes, and then smirk or giggle or do something that lets me know she wants to savor the moment. And so do I.—Chris, certified financial planner

Chuck the gum

Is it really too much to ask that you not chew gum when we kiss? It's funny in the movies when a girl kisses a guy and he magically ends up with her gum in his mouth, but real life is a different story. I'm all for a little tongue-on-tongue action but, please, ditch the Trident before we get there.—Chandler, club promoter

No brushstrokes
I went on a semi-blind date and the conversation was natural, we both laughed a lot, and I think we both knew the date was going to end with a first kiss. Unfortunately, her technique can best be described as 'lip painting.' She literally painted my lips with her tongue, in a circular motion. I recoiled as politely as I could, and retreated to some pecks. Then I escaped in a cab and never called her back."—John, radio host

Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and WWE Magazine. His first kiss sucked. At least, that's what the girl told him.

Read the other side of this article -women view on How We'd Like To Be Kissed

You might also be interested in reading 5 Signs He's Into You or the mirrored view 5 Signs She's Into You

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How Women Wants To Be Kissed  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Guys, sit up & pay attention again! Don't just push your face to ours :p


By Christine M. Coppa
Article courtesy of Happen magazine, http://www.happenmag.com/

I've had my fair share of kisses over the years. Some, I admit, were horrible, and included things like braces, corn-chip breath, and games of tonsil hockey. But there have been some pretty sweep-me-off-my-feet kisses too, like: kissing under a sky illuminated with fireworks, a grown-up-game of spin-the-bottle (please land on green eyes—yes!), and scandalous kisses that never should have happened but felt so good. It's no wonder, of course, that my girlfriends and I want more of the latter than the former. So listen up, guys, for some advice. Here, eight women kiss and tell…

Make sure she's willing

First off, does the date merit a kiss? Are we engaged in conversation with you? Are we smiling? If things seem like a go, a first kiss should be very soft. Please, no tongue! Just kiss our lips with yours. Nip at my bottom lip—just slightly tug it. Don't be like my last first date, who licked my teeth and got my hair caught in his college ring (come to think of it—never wear a college ring on a date).


Brush up

Hygiene is key. Before you attempt to kiss a woman ask yourself: Does your breath smell like pepperoni pizza? We don't care if we just dined in garlic heaven—a pack of gum or tin of Altoids cost around a buck. Both fit in your pocket. Puh-lease, have fresh breath. I keep Tic-Tacs on me at all times (hint, hint)! If we go back to your place to cuddle and watch a DVD, there is nothing sexier than a guy that excuses himself to the bathroom and emerges smelling like Crest. I once kissed a guy that tasted like tuna fish. We did not go on another date.


Ration the love

A little goes a long way, boys! A little lip, a little tongue, a little caressing of our cheekbone. For starters, give us a quick, sexy sweep. Then retreat—do not shove your tongue into our mouth. What we want now are your lips. We want long, solid smooches. Next, pull away and hold the back of our head in your palm. Look into our eyes. We'll reciprocate—trust me.


Sneak a peck

When just getting to know a guy, I like it when he goes in but doesn't make it to my lips and rather dots my cheek and lip with a long, sweet, I-know-I-like-you peck. Then he pulls away and I likely blush, which is a good sign. On our next formal date, I expect full lip-on-lip contact.


Kiss us in the theater

Take me to the movies and kiss us (just sweet pecks) at really touching moments, like when the main guy and gal realize they're meant to be or the puppy gets saved from a burning building. It shows us you're sensitive and totally tuned into our girly feelings. We'll kiss you when your team scores a basket—promise. ;)


Watch the hands

Do not take our hands and put them in inappropriate places on your body while we are sharing a kiss. If we like you, our hands will be caressing your brow or tucked under your collar. And we love it if your hands are resting on our hips, holding the back of our head, sweeping our cheek with a soft, open palm, or holding our hands (personal favorite). It ruins a kiss if you take your hands and go rushing to different places. If we like you…we'll get there.


Sweep her off her feet—literally

We love Hollywood kisses. Completely, over-the-top, theatrical kisses. Hold us, dip us, kiss us. It shows us you love to have fun (like me!), and it's so romantic. Hollywood kisses are also a great distraction from petty arguments, by the way.


Just do it!

My best advice is so simple: Go for it. If you get that urge, and we don't seem that into it, who cares? Maybe we're just zoned out for some reason, or maybe we are into you and you just aren't picking up on our very subtle vibes. I've been sneak-attacked a lot with a kiss, and nine times out of ten, it turns me on!

The other side of this story -from men point of view by Matt Christensen Men Point-Of-View: How To Be A Better Kisser

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5 Signs She's Into You  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Guys, sit back straight & pay attention! The mystery is now solved! NO more wondering whether we are interested or not! ;)

Five signs your date is into you…


1. She tilts her head

When a woman sees and feels especially comfortable with a man, she will tilt her head. A tilt in any direction — right, left or down — are all signs that she's interested in getting to know you better — say, over another date.

2. She takes a sip when you take a sip

When a woman is drawn to a guy, she'll instinctively mirror his actions, Hartley says. While men do this, too, women are more likely than men to first begin the copying. What should you look for? You might notice she will shift her body in the same direction as yours or take your lead for behavior changes like picking up a glass to drink or blinking her eyes repeatedly if you're doing so. If you want to test her, lean forward and see if she comes closer, too.

3. She twirls her hair

Since the beginning of time, a woman's hair has been celebrated as a symbol of her sexuality. And it's true today. If your date begins twirling or playing with her hair while talking to you, it is a good sign she's into you and subconsciously trying to attract you.

4. She gets a glow

While blushing often means embarrassment, don't assume that her rosy cheeks are an indication of discomfort. When a woman is sexually aroused and attracted, blood flows not only to her nether regions, but also to her face, which causes her cheeks to get redder. And if your date is smitten, he adds, her lips and even eyelids will get fuller, too, he says.

5. Her pupils dilate

While your gaze is fixed on her, pay particular attention to her pupils. When a woman is attracted to a man, her pupils will dilate. Essentially, the body does this in order to allow itself to take in more of a good thing.

…and five signs your date is not into you

1. She crosses her arms

Did she assume the angry librarian stance? When a woman on a date places her hands in front of her body — especially if they are crossed — she is closing herself off from the man. If you get this red flag, you don't stand a chance… and she wants you to know it. Men are not nearly as perceptive as women, so even if she's not consciously aware of it, a woman knows her body language needs to be very loud. In this instance, that body language reads loud and clear.

2. She places her bag between you two

When I ask male friends how a blind date went, step-by-step, and they say 'she put her bag on the table, I always know that's a bad sign. If your date places her purse — a real and physical barrier — between you two, she's showing she wants to create distance. Not a good sign.

3. She speaks faster than an auctioneer

So she seems to love talking to you? Before you break open the bubbly, note the speed of her small talk. Romantic conversation does not occur at the same speed as business conversation. Conversation between two people who are attracted typically slows to about three-quarter speed and softens. In fact, most emotional conversation — with the exception of very hostile conversation — is at a slowed cadence. That said, she may be nervous early in your first date, and her nerves can cause her to spit her sentences out rapid-fire. But if by the end of the evening she's still going at a rapid rate, consider it a clue that she just wants to be friends at best.

4. She offers you a chin-up smile

Though it's tempting to interpret any old smile as a sign of interest, all smiles are not created equal. Smiles can say a lot — "I'm polite," "I'm crazy about you," and, believe it or not, "I can't stand you." The secret to decoding what her smile really means? It's all in the chin placement. A woman who gives you a relaxed, chin-down "soft smile" is smitten and wants you to dig her back. A full-on toothpaste grin or stiff and polite smile — both of which generally involve the chin raised up — mean either "I like you as a friend" or "I wanna get out of here!"

5. She strokes her neck

If your date's telling you she agrees that you should get together again, that's a good sign, right? Maybe. Her body language may be the key to the real truth. If a woman is gently stroking her neck when telling you this, it may be a sign that she's interested, but it is also known to be a sign of lying. To figure out which message she's sending, consider the aforementioned "she's not into you" signals. If she's also giving you the raised-chin smile and speaking to you over a giant purse, you may want to move on to your next prospect. ;)

Wanie Idayu: Guys, now you know that the signs that we are not interested are not that subtle after all ;) It is easier to tell when we are not interested.

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5 Signs He's Into You  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

I found this article a while ago & thought it would be useful to some of my really hot & nice cingle girlfriends. So look out for these signs girls!! Hope this helps! :)

And guys, please tell me if the signs are correct or incorrect OK? It'll be a BIIIGGGGG help to all girls in need if you can give some heads up.

Article by Chelsea Kaplan

Having trouble figuring out your guy's level of interest in you? Sometimes, the proof is in his body language. To understand what your honey's movement, eye contact and even posture reveal about his true feelings for you, check out these hints:

Five signs your date is into you…

1. He closes the distance

Moving in closer indicates a desire for more intimate contact. So if a guy you're talking to at a party inches a little closer as you talk, or your date slides into the same side of the booth as you, you know he wants to get to know you better—and not as a friend.

2. He speaks softly

When a man talks in a quieter voice, he's indicating that what he's saying is for your ears only. If he's telling you something private or secret, it's a good thing—guys don't do that to women they're not into. If you want to let that soft-talker know you feel the same way, respond in kind, which should quickly turn those sparks into an all-out fire. Caveat: If you're in a loud bar or restaurant, where you have to shout to be heard, you can't tell anything by his decibel level. So wait until you're walking or driving home to see whether he's turned the volume down.

3. He rounds his posture

Hypermasculine body language (think: swaggering walk, standing tall with shoulders back and chin up, etc.) serves to attract women from a distance. But when a guy is talking close-up with a woman he likes, he will soften, or "round" his body language. If your guy's squared shoulders cave in when he's chatting with you, he's indicating that he feels comfortable and secure in your presence.

4. He talks slowwwly

Like birds in a mating dance, men typically talk more slowly and softly when they are attracted to someone. Of course, if he knocked back a few gigante lattes on a first date, he may be too wired (and nervous) to sound like Barry White, but give it time: If his speech starts to make you feel sleepy, he's a goner.

5. He can't take his eyes off you (in a good way)

So his eyes are locked on yours? As long as it isn't a psycho stare, but rather a lingering, heavy-lidded, "Wow, you're amazing" gaze, that guy is digging you big-time. :)

..and 5 signs your date is not into you

1. He's four feet away

If his motto may as well be The Police's "Don't Stand So Close to Me", he's not feelin' you romantically. How do you define "distance"? If he remains four feet or more away from you, it is a clear signal that his heart's not in it.

2. He stands at an oblique angle facing you

Most men do not realize that when talking to another man, they stand at oblique angles, with one shoulder facing the other's face, yet when they talk to women — especially ones we're interested in romantically — they stand face-to-face with them. So, f your guy's shoulder is pointing in the direction of your face during conversation, he's subconsciously showing disinterest or is trying to turn you off.

3. He sounds like that guy in accounting

If your date is talking to you like you're someone at the office — meaning the pace is quick and the level of his voice is rather strong —he's probably just trying to keep it to friend level. With time, you might notice a change — after all, he just might want to keep it "professional" on the first date or two while he gets to know you — but if it remains this way after a few dates, cut your losses.

4. He stares at your mouth

When a guy focuses on your lips, what he's really trying to do is avoid eye contact. If he's avoiding eye contact, you can pretty safely assume he's not into you. If your date fixes his gaze below your face, he's probably interested in you, but perhaps not for a long-term relationship, if you know what I mean…

5. He's out of sync with your body language

When a guy is romantically interested in you, he will mimic your body language, so if he doesn't copy you, gesture for gesture, odds are he isn't smitten. To test the waters, try leaning in closer to your date, using your hands to emphasize what you're saying. If your guy does the same, it's a great sign. But if he keeps his hands still, pulls away or takes a step backwards, he may be unavailable or just plain not interested.

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5 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before Getting Married!  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Choosing Life Partner

Especially for those of u who are not married. And those who are, u can review your married life based on these. So please take time off n go thru the stuff coz it really makes sense.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love. "I believe is the #1mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may not sound politically correct, there's a profound truth here.

Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then love will come. Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot MORE!

Here are 5 questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding AND keeping a life partner.

QUESTION # 1
Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 to 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat, sex and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage.1.You can grow together, or 2.You can grow apart. 50 % of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottom line - and marry someone who wants the same thing. If the so & so you're in love with; doesn't want the same thing you do; you might as well opt out of it now than when its too late.

QUESTION # 2:
Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust. i.e trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION # 3:
Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive. How can you test? Here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing" So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in this world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You needto know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION # 4:
How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following:
1. How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, busboy, taxi driver, etc.?
2. How do they treat parents and siblings?
3. Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
4. Do they show respect?If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you-who cant do nearly as much for them!
5. Do they gossip and speak badly about others?Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION # 5:
Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage and for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. There is no point in putting restrictions on your life partner. If you love him/her you will accept him/her as they are.

In conclusion, selecting your partner doesn’t have to be difficult & treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are selecting, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.


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I've Learned....  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

I've learned....That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I've learned....That when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned....That just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day.

I've learned....That being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned....That you should never say "no" to a gift from a child.

I've learned....That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned....That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned....That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned....That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned....That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned....That money doesn't buy class.

I've learned....That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I've learned...That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned....That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
I've learned....That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I've learned....That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned....That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned....That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned....That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned....That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've learned....That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned....That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned....That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned....That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned....That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I've learned....That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.

I've learned....That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned ...That it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life threatening situation.

I've learned....That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

P/S The unrealized lessons of life... :)


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A Revelation...  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

I was digging thru' the junk documents in my thumbdrive and I found this old blogpost of mine. In Friendster originally. Written on 9 Dec'05, but I'm re-posting it here so that I can re-share the experience.. Check it out...

9th December 2005

It has been so long since I jot down something here. But I just had the most refreshing conversation with a very wise friend of mine and I wanna share it with all of you.
This person is a very senior person (and wise, I may add again) in our company. I was having lunch with him today. And he talked to me about 2 things –How to be happy in life & in a relationship. He said all the feelings that we’re feeling is just a state of mind. Hence, if we’re bored with a person or bored with our lives, its all just inside our mind! And we are the only person that can change that. We are responsible for our own happiness. Happy conditions does not mean that we will be happy all the time. i.e. “If I have a lot of money (conditions), I will be happy or if I have a big car (conditions), I will be happy” But then, how come some people who have all that are still not happy? Because it’s all is state of mind. Therefore, in order for us to create happy conditions, we ourselves must be happy first. So we will have to change/adjust our way of thinking. Thus, a happy person will create a happy conditions. Need further clarification on the above? Set up an appointment with me, and we’ll talk this over the tarik. ;) Heh.

As for being happy in a relationship, he said that “Seek to understand, then, we will be understood”. Often we are so selfish as to tune our partner to our needs, when we ourselves are blind to theirs. On why are they reacting this/that way and stuff. If both of us practice this way of thinking & understanding, I’m sure that we will have a long-lasting relationship. Bored with the same person? It’s in the state of mind. We are responsible for our own happiness right? We are what we are today is because of our own doing. A cheater? A liar? Happiness is within ourselves. Don’t forget that & we’ll be happy wherever we are, whomever we’re with. Oh, & I tell you this –this man really knows what he talks about. Why? He’s been courting his current wife since he’s 16 years old, and now his 60 and still happily married. Never strayed away from his 1 true love. “But mind you!” he said, it’s not easy, it need working. We know, we see that there are a lot of beautiful people in this world, there’ll always be someone more prettier, more brainier, more interesting than our partner. But are we going to leave/cheat on our partner everytime we meet a better person? The choice is in our own hands. State of mind. We are what we are by our own doing. Remember? Heh.

I feel very blessed knowing all the people I knew. I love meeting people (as long as they’re not some psychopath or sex maniac! Eeuuuuwwwhhh!!). And to me if we really wanted to evolve as person we must be open to accept different types of people in our circle of friends. That’s how we grow as a person. Continuous improvement. Sticking to the same ‘ol circle will constraint our thinking and believes and self-development. Therefore if we wanna be a better person, to improve our lives; expand our circle of friends, and probably I’ll hear u guyz sharing your experiences and discoveries with me too!!

Have A Nice Day Everybody!!! =)


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Don't Make Excuses For Men.. ;)  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Experience taught me to never give excuse to any man, ever. He didn’t call –he’s just not interested, you're not in his mind, you're not important enough to call, etc etc. He didn’t ask to see you –again, he’s just not interested, you're not in his mind, you're not important enough to spend some of his time. As simple as that. Don’t think about the maybes… he’s busy wif his work.. bla bla bla.. Just, don’t! Coz there’s just no excuse. Wanna talk about work? U will have work ‘till you die. Unless you get very, very lucky. No time to meet up / go out for date? There’s always the phone. Still very very busy? 5 minutes to just ask how you are, that he can’t see you but would very much want to, he can’t talk long… bla bla bla. Still no time? Then, it’s back to –you're not important enough for him to make that call. Heh.


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What Is My Style  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Your Style is Classy


You've got class, and you know how to put together a guy catching outfit

You're more likely to shop at Bloomie's than bebe

For you style is looking like a million bucks...

And you're always do with your fantastic yet feminine wardrobe


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Libra Love Profile  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Libra Love Profile -Wanie Idayu
Your positive traits:

You are open minded enough to date outside your typical "type" ... successfully!
You are diplomatic - and likely to end a fight instead of dragging things out.
You are easily loyal and faithful, but only for the right person.

Your negative traits:

You're a bit gullible, and partners take advantage of you. You still may not know it.
You find it difficult to decide where to go to dinner, what movie to watch, who to date...
You have to be in a relationship, or else you just don't feel like yourself.

Your ideal partner:

A smooth talker who enjoys socializing as much as you to.
Someone classy and cultured who knows which wine to order with dinner.
Is beautiful to you - although not necessarily attractive in the traditional sense.

Your dating style:

Romantic. If your date comes bearing flowers, wine, and poetry... well, your heart soars.

Your seduction style:

Giving. Your lover's pleasure is as important as your own.
Soft and sensual - you don't like anything to be rough.
Extravagant ... your fantasy involves staying at a five star hotel with your love.

Tips for the future:

Don't be so quick to compromise in relationships - and you'll get taken advantage of yes.
Try being single for a while. Seems impossible, but you'll learn so much about yourself from doing so.
Make some decisions about your romantic life, right now. You'll be happy that you did.

Best color to attract mate: Green

Best day for a date: Wednesday


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My Love Life Secrets  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

My Love Life Secrets Are...

Looking back on your life, you will only have one true love.

You've been deeply wounded in the past, and you're still recovering from that hurt.

You prefer a quirky, unique person to be your lover. You're easy going about who you're with, as long as they love you back.

In fights, you love to debate and defend yourself. You logic prevails - or at least you'd like to think so.

A break-up usually comes as a shock to you. You always think things are going well.


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My Love Style  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

Your Love Style is Eros

For you, love is all about the passion!

And chances are, you're currently in love.

You have a strong physical response to love...

And you are great at committing

(As long as the person makes your toes curl!)


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The Keys To My Heart  

Posted by Wanie Idayu

The Keys to Wanie's Heart

You are attracted to obedience and warmth.

In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored.

You'd like to your lover to think you are stylish and alluring.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was insecure and in constant need of reassurance.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future...
one you can grow with.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would
never break a commitment.

You think of marriage as something that will confine you. You are afraid of marriage.

In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.


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